Category Archives: Uncategorized

QJ’s Blog Site has moved to

QJ’s Blog Site has moved to



This Blog has moved – see below

This Blog site has moved to

Take some time to check it out. Same content + ALL MY NEW STUFF!

See you there …

This site has moved!

If you’d like to keep in touch with my Blogs then please go to:

where you’ll find everything from before, PLUS new added value items.

See you there. Thanks.

‘Don’t make your decisions with wisdom, make them with passion’, Ave, Navajo Indian, Las Vegas, 2002.

Today cannot be enjoyed Tomorrow: except as a memory.

Which do you make more important: experiences or memories? We all have both, of course. But many gloss over the present, taking photos on the way, and look forward to getting back home to show the photos to others. ‘This is what we did. This is where we went’, they say. This is good, this is enjoyable, this is sharing. But enjoying the moment, fully enjoying the experience itself is always better! When you are on your death-bed, there will be memories that you can’t recall because they faded. There will be memories that you want to share with certain people, but those certain people won’t be there with you. There will be things you remember with love, and there will be things that you remember with regret.
Why wait? Why wait? Why wait?
You already know how to be happy. You need no more learning. You need no more intelligence. You need no more age or wisdom.
Happiness only ever occurs in the moment. Make today’s moments special.
Make Your Life Special.

Reward Your Biggest Mistakes with Your Biggest Rewards!

They say there’s no failure, only results. Bull! When you fail to get the result you wanted, it’s not nice. You feel like you’ve wasted your time. It’s boring. They say, ‘you discovered another way that didn’t work’. Great – but it’s not, is it? It’s a pain. So what’s the answer? Elegant Failure: that’s the best way.

Try this: Whenever you fail to get the right answer, the support or the sale that you wanted, admit that you failed and failure is a part of the process. It’s okay to fail. It happens to everybody.

The thing I like to do when I fail is to Reward Your Biggest Mistakes with the Biggest Rewards.

When we reward ourselves, we feel good – or at least we should. When you link failure to a good feeling, you will eventually stop beating yourself up as a result of your failure.

Once you get to this point, stop the reward and you’ll find you stick with the new feeling.

This is a real win/win. You’ll end up feeling fine whether you succeed or you fail. The important point is not to let failure stop you trying. And not to let it make you feel bad.

Warning:  If you keep on rewarding yourself for failure endlessly, you could end up conditioning yourself to want to keep failing because you like the feeling so much. But you knew I was going to say that, didn’t you? You’ll know when you’ve achieved the right level of feeling okay about failure though, won’t you, because you understand exactly this principle.

Good luck – not that you need it. Make some great mistakes and then tell me all about them. I really want to hear how you get on.

Have you been watching the politicians for authenticity?

I don’t know. That Nick Clegg’s an odd one. On the face of it, his eyes, his body language and his general demeanour are missing something. And yet, he appears to be the ‘winner’ in the debate!

I would have said that he’s a performer. And although I don’t think he has much charm, he has that quality which makes him believable.

Compared with Cameron, whose background is hard to hide – and some are biased against privilege – Clegg has a kind of solidness.

What do you think determines who people vote for? Is it their promises, their manifesto, their party politics, or something much deeper, perhaps their humanity, their character or their ability to perform?